Always pondering others reaction .

Some people with default thought process always while interacting with others constantly generating undue thoughts about other person reactions and tend to speak next sentence expressions tuned to default mode constant evaluating others reaction, one may justify it as attempt to preserve self and not to hurt other and generate positive impression , but usually such tactics do not succeed in generating positive impressions , however it is not clear whether other person gets impressed on such imaginary reactions and counter reactions and diverting/wobbling conversation in uncertain territory.

After all why should one bother so much about ones each sentence and expression uttered , usually it may denote lack of self confidence and reluctance to engage in conversations , as if sky is going to fall and one always attempting to hold it somehow.

Person who since early age has remained isolated , with fewer friends , no much support / encouragement of elderly people or one had some fully/partial disability and with added isolation with no proper care may develop such tendencies and not only in conversations but also in isolation imaginary conversation generated and pondering reactions or always deeply engrossed in deciphering reaction of others in conversations with peoples held earlier.

The desire to be liked and accepted by others is a natural human instinct. We all want to feel appreciated and valued by the people around us. However, when this desire turns into an obsession with too much caution and doddering and we become overly concerned about other people’s reactions to us, it can become harmful.

Constantly worrying about what others think of us can lead to a range of negative consequences, both for our mental health and our relationships with others. Here are some of the ways that much concern about other person’s reactions can be harmful:

  1. It can lead to anxiety and stress: When we are overly concerned about what others think of us, we may feel anxious and stressed about every interaction we have with them. We may worry about how we come across, whether we said the right thing, or whether we were liked or not. This constant worry can lead to feelings of anxiety and stress, which can take a toll on our mental and physical health.
  2. It can lead to self-doubt: When we are always worried about other people’s reactions to us, we may begin to doubt ourselves and our own abilities. We may become overly self-critical and struggle to make decisions or take action because we are afraid of how others will perceive us. This can lead to a lack of confidence and a sense of insecurity.
  3. It can limit our ability to be authentic: When we are too concerned with what others think of us, we may end up putting on a facade or hiding our true selves in order to please others. This can be exhausting and can prevent us from being authentic and true to ourselves. It can also make it difficult to form genuine connections with others, as we are not showing them our true selves.
  4. It can damage our relationships: When we are overly concerned about other people’s reactions, we may become overly sensitive to any criticism or negative feedback. This can lead to defensiveness and an inability to accept constructive criticism or engage in open communication with others. It can also lead to a sense of mistrust or insecurity in our relationships.

So, what can we do to break free from this harmful cycle of worrying about other people’s reactions?

First, it’s important to recognize that we can’t control and imagine how others perceive us or react to us. We can only control our own actions and reactions. We can also remind ourselves that other people’s opinions are just that – opinions exacerbated by one. They are not necessarily a reflection of who we are or our worth as a person.

We can also work on building our self-esteem and self-worth. When we are confident in ourselves and our abilities, we are less likely to be overly concerned with what others think of us.

In conclusion, while it’s natural to want to be liked and accepted by others, we must be careful not to become overly concerned with other people’s reactions to us. This can lead to anxiety, self-doubt, inauthenticity, and damaged relationships. By focusing on building our self-esteem, being authentic, and recognizing that we can’t control how others perceive us, we can break free from this harmful cycle and live more fulfilling lives.


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